If his plan to have you live with him isn't good for you, then it isn't good for him, not if he intends to be with you. But it upset me that he made it a condition…. I wish he would change his mind or come back. My boyfriend and I have just become much more serious recently. I don’t care how archaic this sounds to anyone, if you want to know what he is thinking, he is thinking around these lines. Turndorf is passionate in her certainty that we can actually communicate with those we’ve lost. Many women are willing to do this and it is most unhealthy. We saw my family over Thanksgiving, we’re seeing hers over Christmas. I think it's important to understand other religions and respect other peoples beliefs but I'd never change my religion for someone and there's no one out there that would make me want to change my religion. It would also be near impossible for such a Christian to allow their children to be brought up as anything but Christian. Don't get me wrong, I think religion is very important for our future kids' but I also told him that we could incorporate both religions. I’m sure you’re right, George. Their faith is generic and they are reluctant to follow their faith with real commitment, which is why is easier for them to have that type of relationship. I lived it with her, and her story has stayed in my mind. If anyone could possibly put themselves in our shoes for once (I am forever thinking of how this looks to everyone else), then you will see how frankly terrifying that is. If there were feedback forms on every date, it would be useful, but we’re never gonna really know why others do what they do. When you have shifted and you mean business, then you can tell him that he needs a major attitude adjustment. If he isn't willing to collaborate with you regarding a plan that makes room for your educational needs; and if he can't respect your wish to remain Catholic and find a creative way of raising your children with both religions, you would be wise to do some couples therapy. We might disagree on that. I have a question for you, i don't know maybe if you can answer this question or not but I'll give it a shot-I have been with my boyfriend for approximately 1 year and 8 months. Don’t get me wrong, I like the idea of putting more into my mortage, aside for college and retirement too. Sadly, it appears that she is unwilling to surrender her will to God. You're spot on. There are many issues he and I can agree to disagree on, but that is not one of them. Unfortunately, as in all walks of life, some have not modeled such a spirit, or have not been winsome in sharing their faith, and as a result, many are hostile toward faith. His love covers a multitude of sin…because He knows that we’re imperfect people serving a PERFECT GOD! I got there, and that is when I saw that money didn’t fix it, you need a spiritual life that is plentiful. I'm imperfect. If you really believe in being Jewish and raising a Jewish family then there are enough ways for you to meet other Jewish people. Listen To This. Wow Stephanie I couldn’t have put it better myself. However, don’t expect that you can change their mind. In order to have that strong connection we crave, we look for someone who is like-minded. Your handle says otherwise, at least to me. He says he can't live with me being an Atheist because it makes him feel uncomfortable. That I believed in Gods will and that whatever happens I will be ok with the outcome. Glad to know you're out there. Who are you to tell us that we are wrong? He doesn’t know deep down what he wants and is trusting God to lead him and wants that for me too. So there is definitely a very firm intent to get married. We just want… I guess I just can’t comprehend how someone can choose religion over another person especially when he says we were made for each other. Not true. in which faith are you guys raising your children ? The only “god” I see there is your institutional “god” of wrath, vengeance and retribution….and of guilt, shame, and degradation of the human spirit, in the name of institutional control of the “sheep” I suppose people who need fear to keep them from behaving badly, project that same need onto everyone else. Placeholders.enable(); What a crock of self-righteous, loveless drivel. My last and probably most significant was such a wonderful experience, partially because he is Jewish. ", -- Mira Kelley,Bestselling author of Beyond Past Lives. I had almost a similar experience few days ago when a guy I had feelings for told me that for him to be with me in any relationship or matrimonial commitment ,I had to be “a true follower of our religion” (mind you we are the same religion),he added to claim that my ways of worship were not proper for him as we were raised differently, and it hit me that.. In my situation I was in a 2 year relationship with a woman ( iam too ) and after some time I started to feel conviction. Believers being drawn away from their faith 2. Is that your absolute truth, that we are wrong? We talked about loving Him first, then each other. But opting out of some of these cookies may have an effect on your browsing experience. Christ in our lives changes us gradually (for the better) and someone who is not walking that path may not be able to support or understand. That’s a basic principal of our faith. Unless you planned on eleven kids, consider yourself lucky that he left. She, on the other hand, became filled with fear, doubt and worry. He is also asking you to place your own education and self-development behind his own. He didn’t choose “religion” over you, he chose a whole lifestyle over you. Maybe not. I also believe that it can be harder for a Christian who is very strong in their beliefs. I’m not gonna even try to compete with that!!! How dare you derogate the faith of people you’ve never even met? So it would be hard to love somebody so much and at the same time accept that they are not going to Heaven. “If I had to change my religious beliefs, I would not marry the person that I love because the first person I love is God, who created me. If you can’t share your spiritual life with your spouse, out of respect for their beliefs or whatever, you will not be able to have a happy life. Thanks so much Jamie for the awesome blueprint. When I opened up to that relationship and began the daily practice of reading the Bible, Devotionals, prayer, giving thanks, meditating on His word, my life and my heart changed. This is a different Dee from the other post that says wow Stephanie in the comment line. Im speaking to you hear heart broken as i went back on my word and that other person was forced to move on and leave me behind. Same could also happen with the Jewish or even a Muslim person.